If you are personally being abused in your life, whether it be physical abuse or sexual abuse, it is of the utmost importance to reach out and let someone know what you are going through.
The reasons for reaching out are numerous, and in actuality determine who you should be reaching out to in the first place.
If you are reaching out because you are currently in an abusive relationship, the ideal person to contact should be the police.
They will immediately look into the situation, and in most cases will separate you from the alleged abuser as soon as you report the abuse to them.
In this way, you have no need to worry about retaliation from the abuser as soon as he finds out that you are reporting their behavior.
Some people may consider informing a close family member, but it is important to realize that they may be just as complicit in the abuse as the abuser themselves.
In which case it would effectively be the same as telling the abuser outright that you are going to report their behavior, which is obviously something that you would not want to happen.
Unless you have the utmost confidence in your family member, it is always better to go straight to the police.
As a second option for those who may have reservations about going directly to the police, you could potentially go to another trustworthy figure in your life (i.e. a teacher or a boss) and see what they say.
They more likely than not will just echo our sentiments here that you should contact the police immediately, but they would still be valuable as your emotional support during this time.
Just make sure they don’t know your abuser personally, as they may ultimately go behind your back and tell your abuser of your intent to disclose their abusive behavior.
If you are already free from your abuser, one of the next big steps to take is to move on with your life.
To meet this goal, a common resource is a therapist.
These trained professionals will give you someone to talk to and ultimately help analyze your deepest thoughts, helping you to come to terms with what has happened to you, and thus giving you a path to move forward.
While you may not feel like a therapist is necessary, they can definitely come in handy if you find yourself struggling to move forward with your life.
At the very least keep the idea of therapy in mind in case you decide it may be something worthwhile later on.
Last but not least, consider that the people who may best be suited to help and support you are those who have been in your shoes.
Contacting other survivors through local meetups in your area are a great way to not only see how you aren’t alone in your fight for recovery from physical or sexual abuse, but also to see firsthand that you can ultimately recover over time.
Such meetups are dependent on your exact location (if you’re lucky you may find a relevant meetup near you), but in any case, it should be clear that the value of meeting other survivors like yourself cannot be overstated.
If you do come into contact with another survivor, be sure to make the most of it.